Why Haters Should Make You Feel Good!

Sat, 10 Jul 2010 08:02:22 +0100

Recently my horse Jack has been having problems with his back, we are working with a qualified physio to get him back to normal. I have been filming his progress and posting the videos on YouTube, as I do with allot of things that happen in my life.

At first I got allot of nice comments from our lovely loyal subscribers wishing us well, but then, as my videos started getting more views I started to get some negative comments, I tried to explain to the authors of these comments what was Jack's problems were and why I am doing the things that I am with him. Then, over the next few day I had some really mean comments saying that I didn't know what I was doing with Jack, I was making him worse, I was a bad owner etc etc. These type of comments clearly came from people who didn't know me, hadn't seen my earlier videos, people who hadn't been following our story and didn't know what was wrong with him or what I was doing to help get him better. When I deleted these comments I got PM's form the people who wrote them giving me abuse.

It is easy to say 'just ignore them' but that is allot easier said than done, when you love something as much as I love my horse it's hard to listen to people telling you you are harming him. Why anyone would want to make someone else feel so bad is beyond me. I often see videos on YouTube of people doing things with their horses that I don't believe in but I can honestly say that I have never posted a mean or abusive comment on anyone else's video or channel, nore have I ever sent an abusive PM. If it is their horse, they can do what they want with it, I don't believe anyone would intentionally do the wrong thing for their horse, we all have different opinions and different ideas as we learn form different people, especially when we live on opposite sides of the world, the ways that we do things and our opinions of what are right and wrong will sometimes be different.

One thing that I believe is that everybody, regardless of nationality, age or race knows that bullying of any kind is wrong. There are allot of different types of bullying, be it pushing a kid over in the play ground at school, beating someone up in a nightclub, emotional bullying or cyber bullying. I for one think that cyber bullying is the most cowardly form, you can sit at you computer typing mean emails to people who do not know who you are, where you are from, how old your are or absolutely anything about you, these people are basically hiding behind a username or email address, they do not have the guts to stand up to another human being and tell them what they think, they have to do it from inside their computer.

This was my first experience of cyber bullying, these people did not just write one or two comments, they sent me numerous PM's which were nasty, aggressive and basically very disturbing. I did not reply, deleted the comments and blocked them. One of them even set up a new YouTube account so they couldn't send me more abusive messages because I had blocked them on their usual account. Another found me on Facebook and Twitter and sent me horrible messages on there. Some may say that I should not have my FB and Twitter accounts visible on my channel for everyone to see but I like my YouTube friends to be able to talk to me on my other networking sites, not just YouTube, why should I keep those other profiles secret for the sake of these bullies?

While it is hard to ignore these comments I have come to realise that the more popular my YouTube account becomes, the more haters I am going to get. Its the law of averages; not all people are nice, most are but say for every 100 nice people you meet you are bound to meet one or two bad ones, so the more people you meet, or the more people watch your videos, the more haters you will inevitably get. It's just the way the world works, it's sad but true.

If you are getting hater comment just remember that these people are either very bored or very jealous of you! We all get bored and we all get jealous sometimes but most of us are big enough to deal with or let those feeling go, others are not, they feel the need to tell us how they feel, to make us feel bad so that they feel bigger and better about themselves. Next time you get a hater comment just remember that the person who has written it is not only bored, jealous or sad enough to think it but they are jealous enough to actually log in, write it down and send it.

My tips for dealing with haters

Don't respond to their comments, you are to good a person to bring yourself down to their level

Delete the comments, your videos are to good to be related with such people

Block them so they can not continue to write on your video, send you messages etc

Report them to YouTube, YouTube has strict rules on bullying and they have a duty to uphold these rules

Go on with your day remembering that if these people are so jealous of you that they have taken time out of their day to try and make you feel bad, you must be pretty dam good eh?!

Keep posting your videos with pride, remember that most people who watch your videos watch them because they like them, like you and enjoy watching them. Do not let haters spoil the pleasure of YouTube for you. Think of all the good people you have met through YouTube and remember the feeling you get when someone leaves you a nice comment or subscribes to your channel.

Kat x

How I girl I never met changed my life

Thu, 08 Jul 2010 06:36:02 +0100

Jessica Marie Forsyth, a girl who loved her horse, loved her life and lived everyday to the full.

Jessica was full of ambition, had bags of talent and a very bright future ahead of her. Jessica loved to ride, she loved to train horses, she loved to jump. Jessica was 14 when she died on Feb 6th 2008.

This young girl had so many hopes and dreams, what was next? What did life have in store for her? Her life was just beginning, then one day she fell of her horse and all those hopes and dreams were gone, as was she.

How is that right? That someone so young, bright, happy and talented could be here one minute and gone the next?

I, like many people, never met Jessica, in fact we lived on different sides of the world, her in CA, me in the UK but this young girl has changed my life. What happened to Jessica has proved to me how short live is, we all hear the sayings 'life is short', 'make every second count', 'live for the moment' etc but I think we hear these words said so often that we forget how true they actually are.

Young people die everyday, we hear about it on the news, read it in the papers, when I hear stories like this it always makes me feel sad, of course it does, but Jessica's story touched me in a different way. Maybe it was because I see so much of myself in Jessica, when I was 14 I also lived for my horses and all I ever wanted to do was ride. I was convinced that I would grow up to be a professional horse rider and no body could tell me any different.

I used to watched Jess' videos on Youtube, I didn't have a Youtube account but whenever I went onto the site I would always check to see what new videos she had uploaded. The one that first caught my eye was the video of Jess doing a scorpian on Boomer's back, that was the one that got me interested. Then one day when I was looking to see if there were any new videos of Jess and Boomer, I noticed all the tribute videos to her, at first I didn't believe it was true, but it was, she was dead. There was much speculation about the way that she had died but the way it happened didn't matter, the point was, she was gone. This 14 year old ray of light was gone, never to return.

In 2008 when the accident happened I was 23 years old, I had a job that I hated, I had no money and was living with my parents, I wasn't seeing my horses enough. I spent day after day feeling sorry for myself, thinking about how much I hated the way things were. When I heard about Jess' accident I thought about how this could happen to any of us, not just those of us who ride horses but any of us, at anytime our life could end, and for 1000's of people everyday it does. So why lead a life you are not happy with? Yes it may not be possible to have life exactly to way to want it, it may not be possible for us all to live out our dreams but what is the harm in trying?

I lay in bed one night and thought about all the things I would like to change in my life, and one by one over the last two years I have started to changed them. There is still along way to go but at least now, thanks to Jessica, I can say this... If my life were to end today I can say that I tried and that I made the most of everyday. I now have a job that I love, I am a freelance horse groom, I spend my days looking after horses, travelling to shows, riding and grooming, plus i have spare time to ride my own horses, I have found my passion for riding again. Last year I groomed for a professional show jumper at the Horse of the Year Show, the biggest horse show in the UK. That has been a life long dream of mine and I got to do it because a 14 year old girl from the other side of the world gave me to courage to do so.

I think about Jessica and her family everyday, if I ever feel down or sorry for myself I think of her and how her life was cut short, how her family must feel. How dare I feel sorry of myself?? I am here and she is not, I should be glad to be alive.

Jess, you are an inspiration, you have changed my life and you will never know it. I am forever grateful.

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